Real Mom Life

Parenting... let's get REAL.

I've been noticing for a while now how everyone is so judgmental these days. I'm sure things were the same in the past, but in the 21st century, we're still being so petty with the same s***?

Here's what really gets to me. Why are some people who are not parents always saying things like:

"When I have a child, they're not going to be on tablets and phones all day.

My children are going to go outside and be normal.

My kids are not going to be antisocial.

My kids better behave when they're in public.

I'll just give them the 'look' and they'll know better.

I'm never going to give my kid a pacifier because it'll mess up their teeth.

I'm not going to drink in front of my kids because it'll set a bad example for them.

I'll never breastfeed in public because who wants to see that?

My kid is not going to watch TV all day.

I'm going to watch them ALL the time and never leave them without supervision."

You get the memo. The list can literally go on and on, and on, and on... Don't get me wrong, not everyone says these things. Obviously, we all have family and friends that are extremely supportive and for that, THANK YOU! We love you!! 😘

Personally, I am so tired of hearing other people talk about having kids like they have any clue what it's really like when your toddler throws a tantrum because they're hungry or tired in public. They don't know the stress we have on our bodies, mentally and emotionally, to have to breastfeed even though it hurts (but it's what's "best" for our children) and you have to feed them wherever you are because who is going to stay at home ALL DAY because you can't feed them in public?

Listen, at the end of the day, FED is BEST. I'm sorry but I don't care HOW you feed your children. You should be so incredibly proud of yourself for getting up every day and being able to care for a newborn/infant as best as you possibly can!

If parents have their kids on iPads or phones, it's probably for a reason or to help YOU enjoy your time in public and not ruin it for others (they're actually considering your feelings!). Of course, anything in excess is not healthy so we know there are parents out there who simply put them on these devices to keep them busy but just think about what their day might have been like for one moment.

If your child is antisocial, they may have an underlying disorder that can be treated with help. If a parent gives a child a pacifier, it's probably just to soothe them. Again, don't jump to conclusions with their teeth (you're not paying their dental bills). If a mom wants to have a drink, she'll probably pump & dump if she's breastfeeding or if she just needs a drink, let her drink, people! Let the mama do what she wants! 🍹

SO PLEASE, if you don't have children, don't spend your time bashing moms or other parents simply because you don't agree with their parenting (at the moment). Let's try to support one another and be the friend they just might need. You never know what others are going through and like my momma always says, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all." ✌💜